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#1619863 02/14/11 04:30 PM
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Last week my piano teacher asked if I would be interested in any "performance opportunities".

As my heart skipped a beat I replied "uhhhhhh"

She explained that in April another teacher (who happens to be the very mean teacher I had in the past) is having a performance class/recital for the adult piano students. And we can bring a friend if we want.

I know I should probably do this for a number of reasons.
1. It's scary
2. It will give me a goal to work on
3. It will be a great accomplishment for me
It's one those situations where you panic the whole time and then once it's over you think that wasn't so bad. Or maybe it was that bad but at least you did it.

And I don't think I'm really concerned about looking foolish or being embarrassed, I just don't know if I can do it. I get so nervous in those situations and my mind just goes blank. And I know I will probably be nervous all the way up until the date of the recital. Eeek!

Advice....anybody....help.....


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You need to consider: do you enjoy just playing for yourself or, in the future, do you want to share your playing with others? If you want to play for other people in the future, take every opportunity to play in front of an audience so that you develop more of a comfort level with doing so.

I struggle with nerves myself and make myself play at all my teacher's recitals. It is getting easier with time.

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@1. Does not seem a reason to me.
@2. Well, if you need to, but you can always "set a goal" also without recital?
@3. If you feel like that, well then do it!

I would have to see better reasons than above wink But of course you can do it!


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Of course you should do what you want to do. But for me, there is one word in your post that stands out - the word 'mean'. I can't help but feel if I'd had a teacher I found 'mean', and I'd left, then I'd just try to keep my distance.

But there are many different things you might mean by 'mean' - perhaps this teacher was abrupt, or brusque, or strict?

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I'm with TLT.... if you hadn't mentioned the "mean" teacher, I'd be saying - heck, go for it.

I personally would be inclined to avoid a stressful situation organized by someone with whom I felt negative or uncomfortable.

You'll have to decide if you think the "meaness" is going to carry into the recital situation.



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Sometimes venturing out of your comfort zone is a great thing; might enlarge your comfort zone a little!

I say go for it, but stay cool; don't get too excited. You can do this! Have fun!

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It all depends on you. It's like public speaking. Some of the greatest writing can be written in private, does it also mean that person could hop up on a stage and recite the words with luster? Maybe but prolly not.

Some people enjoy things privately or with a group of friends, others like to hop up there with the glare of the lights and preform for a crowd.

It's all up to your personality.


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Originally Posted by casinitaly
I'm with TLT.... if you hadn't mentioned the "mean" teacher, I'd be saying - heck, go for it.

I personally would be inclined to avoid a stressful situation organized by someone with whom I felt negative or uncomfortable.

You'll have to decide if you think the "meaness" is going to carry into the recital situation.


I would do it if I had a strong piece to play just to play well in front of the mean teacher. But thats just me.


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Originally Posted by Kymber
I know I should probably do this for a number of reasons.
1. It's scary
2. It will give me a goal to work on
3. It will be a great accomplishment for me
I have to disagree with wouter here. I think #1 is a great reason. Seriously. Something about facing your fears.


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Rocket88, I am clearly not as courageous as you are. i wish I were!


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That's all good advice. Thank you everyone.
The funny thing is the difference in opinions is exactly what I'm going through in my mind. I have often done things that scared me or thought I couldn't do and felt really good about the accomplishment afterward. And usually those things have benefited me in some way. If nothing more than giving me confidence in what I am able to achieve. In regards to the "mean" teacher (and yes she was mean)a part of me feels like why bother even having to deal with her again and another part of me feels like well you can't always avoid people like that so just do it.

Well its not until April so I guess I will have some time to decide.


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#1. It is “scary” ,but you might diminish that perception if you expose yourself to the reality of it. I am phobic about public performance but really don’t have an opportunity to test myself out in public.
At least you do. Thin of it as opportunity. However negative it seems
#2 -Plan for it as if you would and maybe you might just go and watch . likely you’ll see someone blank out when playing ,,, I think it happens to everyone.
#3-You might find something positive about it or yourself that you never realized by going, what have you to lose?
If you don’t go at all surely not much can change.




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Originally Posted by pianonewbie1
#3-You might find something positive about it or yourself that you never realized by going, what have you to lose?
If you don’t go at all surely not much can change.


Alice by Shel Silverstein

She drank from a bottle called DRINK ME
and she grew so tall.
She ate from a plate called TASTE ME
and down she shrank so small.
And so she changed, while other folks
... Never tried nothin at all.



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Originally Posted by MaryBee
Originally Posted by pianonewbie1
#3-You might find something positive about it or yourself that you never realized by going, what have you to lose?
If you don’t go at all surely not much can change.


Alice by Shel Silverstein

She drank from a bottle called DRINK ME
and she grew so tall.
She ate from a plate called TASTE ME
and down she shrank so small.
And so she changed, while other folks
... Never tried nothin at all.




Thank you Pianowebie and Marybee....
I think I must do this smile

Btw... That's a great poem. I like Shel Silverstein.


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Originally Posted by Kymber
Originally Posted by MaryBee
Originally Posted by pianonewbie1
#3-You might find something positive about it or yourself that you never realized by going, what have you to lose?
If you don’t go at all surely not much can change.


Alice by Shel Silverstein

She drank from a bottle called DRINK ME
and she grew so tall.
She ate from a plate called TASTE ME
and down she shrank so small.
And so she changed, while other folks
... Never tried nothin at all.




Thank you Pianowebie and Marybee....
I think I must do this smile

Btw... That's a great poem. I like Shel Silverstein.


Uhh?Uhhhhh,
well I meant to go/do the performance WITHOUT the use of drugs...( that poem is way scary).




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This sorta recital is generally very supportive of everyone that gets up on stage. Last time I played in public was a random open mic night where they had a grand piano. Kinda surprises me how cool people can be in the right environment.

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Originally Posted by pianonewbie1
Originally Posted by Kymber
Originally Posted by MaryBee
Originally Posted by pianonewbie1
#3-You might find something positive about it or yourself that you never realized by going, what have you to lose?
If you don’t go at all surely not much can change.


Alice by Shel Silverstein

She drank from a bottle called DRINK ME
and she grew so tall.
She ate from a plate called TASTE ME
and down she shrank so small.
And so she changed, while other folks
... Never tried nothin at all.




Thank you Pianowebie and Marybee....
I think I must do this smile

Btw... That's a great poem. I like Shel Silverstein.


Uhh?Uhhhhh,
well I meant to go/do the performance WITHOUT the use of drugs...( that poem is way scary).


Ha ha ha!!! Ok then I will skip the drugs.
I didn't even think of that I was thinking the point was at least she tried.



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And finally soared in the morning glow while non-believers watched from below.”
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Originally Posted by Fate
This sorta recital is generally very supportive of everyone that gets up on stage. Last time I played in public was a random open mic night where they had a grand piano. Kinda surprises me how cool people can be in the right environment.


That's a really good point as well. I have found that as well whenever I take group classes.

Thanks!


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I recognise where you are coming from. I started piano lessons thinking that all my playing would take place in my own home preferably with no one around. I got a shock when I was asked to perform my piece in front of everyone who has lessons.
At the performance all the carefully rehearsed and practiced work seemed to have gone out of the window, but I did it with shaking hands and I am pleased that it is behind me now. Not really looking forward to the next performance opportunity.


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