It’s almost 11 PM. WAY past my bedtime. I know (as my daughter might say)…boring.
It seems these days when I am up too late I am here. Not out at parties. Here. Why? I have not a clue….or maybe a little…..
Some of you will recall…when I started posting, nobody, including kathyk, knew I was married to kathyk. I was a new moderate liberal and, despite my views in support of affirmative action, drew some support from the likes of Jolly and Larry and others of different viewpoints. I try to be reasonable. I try to listen. I am never SURE that my view is the correct one.
I can’t begin to list what I have learned here…about wine and cooking, gardening, religion and politics, what it means to be human, Christian, not Christian, arguing, not arguing, human nature, anger, love, pixels, fun, pixels….pixels…and people.
When I first revealed who I really was, I made a game of it and it was a lot of fun for me and a few others…. http://www.pianoworld.com/ubb/ubb/ultimatebb.php?/topic/10/3033.html#000000
I dragged it out perhaps a bit too long….but I want to quote a piece here….edited for brevity, clarity, and nodoze….
Please allow me to introduce myself.........
As many of you guessed, I am Mr. kathyk.
I never said I was black. Larry told you all a month ago that I was not.
I started lurking a little because kathyk would sometimes go on about what one of you said--sometimes laughing, sometimes p*ssed, and she started emailing me links to certain threads. Like many if not most of your spouses, I protested to to avail. "It's not like they're real people or anything...they're just a bunch of pixels...probably all lying about what they look like...." As you may recall, she quit a few times and then kept coming back. I don't know about your spouses, but when kathyk stays up late chatting here, I miss her!
It was also becoming clear that the liberals, badly outnumbered, needed a little help.....
When I saw the affirmative action thread, I decided to jump in. I thought a moderate tone would be effective And consistent with who I am. In light of the topic, the avatar you know as Jack Frost jumped out. I really didn't plan to hang around very long....really....
After just a few posts, I got a PM from (guess who)..........kathyk......welcoming me and telling me the PF needed another lefty to help kick conservative butt ...or something like that. I didn't reply. An online relationship with my wife, with her thinking I am someone else.......that could be TROUBLE. Another day or two went by....lots of activity on the AA thread...and I don't think I dared stray off it....
I came home one night and sat in the kitchen (as I often do) with kathyk as she cooks the weekday meal to share the day as we often do..."You wouln't believe what Jolly said today...and that Larry...but there's this new guy...a liberal...and I think he is black....and kind of smart....and his name is Jack Frost."
At this point I am really befuddled. This could be a HUGE problem if I let it go on and, for example, kathyk decides to have a black pixel boyfriend (By this time I am very much up to speed with Apple and TomK). I need to come clean so I announce "I am Jack...." Silence........and then lots of kudos!!!! Hey, I did the right thing! And so it goes.
This has been fun. I almost didn't bother because I thought maybe nobody would be interested enough to ask questions....clearly i misjudged that. As I said, I wasn't planning to hang around, but I got drawn in...as have many of you.
****END OF FLASHBACK****
I think I have almost 5,000 posts. Remarkable. Scarey. I will never get there obviously, but where and why did all that time go…
Some of you pixel people have become real and those are the relationships I value the most. There isn’t a one of you I have met that I would not love to see again, and the group of “real people” will expand in a couple of weeks at another New England Piano World party coming up.
But some of the pixel people have been important too. I have told Jodi at least thrice that I loved her and she has wisely ignored me each time. I said the same thing about Matt tonight and his response is yet to be seen. (Tomk also said he loved Matt so I will probably be ignored in favor of the younger curly guy. He gets all the girls and maybe the boys too.)
I am reluctant to start naming more of the people I love and like for fear of missing some…it’s late and I am due in bed. You all I will continue to see and exchange posts with in one place or another. There are a lot of you.
So I thought it more fitting to say goodbye to a few of my adversaries (and if you get left out, well maybe you are just considered a friend---tough luck). Each of these that follow I have had one knock down drag out fight with…..
Gryphon, I don’t know where you come up with some of that….nasty stuffffff…..so direct and at times mean. We share a connection with your home state and with some very important music. The last image here is dedicated to you. I wish I could wave a wand to take away your anger and sense of injustice…I think it plays a disproportionate role in your personality and gets in the way of what might be a very loving person, but I know the last thing you need is some amateur (albeit with a Masters) psychologist trying to figure you out. You have a beautiful family and I have no doubt that you and I could have a great four hours at a steakhouse getting to know one another. For each spiteful post you leave, you seem to pull another…God save us!
Larry, you are the toughest to address because there is all this other stuff with you and Kathyk that tries to color my relationship with you. No surprise there. Please know I speak for myself only. We are two people. You can be the meanest, most foul-mouthed, vindictive….skip that part. Larry, the single most memorable and meaningful post for me on this board came from you a couple of Thanksgivings ago. I have never forgotten it and I have passed it on to others. More recently, I was touched with your comprehensive and helpful post to me about what to do in Atlanta—we saw the Pandas! While I found Stainweggie offensive at times, he was also the most comprehensive and consistent puppet on the forum (oh goodness…at least that I know of). You have talent and passion, and you have a temper. Get over the latter and you will be amazed at your success. I am not at all blind to your good (great) side. Let it shine. In any event, I wish you the best, I really do.
Jolly, the straight shooter, even when shooting from the hip. I envy your pension! But that is not here nor there. I have glimpses of a meaner Jolly before my time, but I have always respected your consistent and straightforward perspective (even if you don’t know your head from your *** when it comes to lawyers). You are what my ex-mother-in-law used to refer to as “real people.” Take away the most extreme 10% of your posts and you are practically…well…JBryan (and that is someone to emulate).
TomK, I have had a real ****fight with each of the above I think once but the best was with you when you refused to admit, in the face of overwhelming evidence and my clear accusation, that you were Improv. I have seen in the archives you used to be mean. At times, very mean. I have also seen that you have moved past that. As much as anyone here, you are the guy who makes me smile when I log in here. I wonder how the heck anyone as successful as you (pretend to be) can spend so much time here, but it doesn’t really matter. You really do light up the day and I marvel at the nonstop and never ending wit you throw out here.
I have not named all the people I am closest to. My liberal friends may shake their heads and….worse….that I am singling out those here, but I…..I don’t know. I don’t take all these pixels quite as seriously as some …and I kind of like the Wild West part of it all.
Funny, because I am about as not wild as they get. I am more into nice, for whatever that may be worth.
Too long. Time to end.
Bye and bygones. This has been a neat place and I look forward to being some part of whatever follows on some level, but it will be different. There is a lobster here with your name on it…each and every one of you who has been a part of the Coffee Room. Friend or (faux) foe. If you are nearby, just call or email and if you have not figured out my real contact info leave a post in Cindy’s place. I’ll greet you with a smile and a martini and introduce you to my lovely wife….You’ll like her a lot…trust me.
This is my favorite time of the year in Maine. Every day I come home from work and if not too dark look carefully in the garden to see what is new and what has grown and what is coming. Every winter it all dies back and every spring most of it returns, along with some new surprises that weren’t there before. But there are always old friends in the garden who disappear. I mourn the loss, and after a few weeks plant something new in their place….
I’ll be around a bit in one or more of the new places. I express thanks to Larry and Jgoo and Cindy for their great efforts to make a space for us to continue.
Until we meet again.
Happy trails to you.
Keep smiling until then.
Happy trails to you…
Until we meeeeeet a – gaaaaiiinnnn…..
Dit…ditdo…duh duh duh duh duh……