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From a girl's point of view. Telling a girl your gay is the ULTIMATE WRONG pick-up line!!!

I mean, that scratches him off my list immediately. I don't know if I'd ever continue being "friends", coz I once had such a friend who just wanted to talk about all the guys he had the weekend.

Do you really think your girl-friend wants to hear about you fooling around with friggen MEN?

D, liked your joke about the shopping though!

Hi from South Africa

His plan is, somewhere down the line, to tell her that he's never felt like this about a woman before, and that being with her has turned him. Have to add that his last relationship ended up with some biblical rows. Actually so did the one before that. He tends to go through a lot of girlfriends

Precisely. :p :p

Homophobia and a sense of humour failure. Hmmm....

:rolleyes:

No way, no how, no where, will any straight guy tell a girl (or any other guy for that matter) that he is gay. I dont care HOW secure he supposedly is with his masculinity, it just isnt something that a straight guy does. Uttering it pretty much ensures rumors will spread, and he will be known as the gay guy, to many.

What, he thinks the rest of the people in his life will know he's straight, but this one girl (or these several girls he's used the line on) will remain hermetically separated from the rest of the world so the perceived orientations never get mixed?

Any guy running around telling girls he's gay has a little more going on with that issue below the surface. Kinda like those guys i've known who go to gay bars because its "easier to pick up women there since they're off guard". :rolleyes:

I can assure you he has no issues, and no intention of having anything other than a one night stand. He thinks it's a good hook. And London is far too big a place for the odd girl he meets in a bar to end up bumping into his circle of friends.

Your friend is nuts. Even if I WERE looking for a one night stand (which, let me hasten to add, I am not), the last person I would hook up with is somebody who admits to having a lifestyle placing him at high risk of AIDS.

Tell your friend a MUCH more effective line is the ol' "my heart was broken two years ago and you're the first woman I've met who has given me hope that one day I might be able to love again." This works even better if said with a soulful expression on the face and, dare I say it, a welling or two of tears in the corner of the eye.

Well, ok, I guess I could see that, but thats not the scenario presented. You said its a longer term plan where he'll eventually tell the girl he's never felt this way about a girl before.

You mean he goes through this whole metamorphisis all in one conversation at a bar? I was under the impression it was a longer term plan. That after knowing her for a few days/weeks he pretends to change teams. Also since you said he goes thru a lot of girlfriends, I assumed you meant girls he met this way, which wouldnt be one night stands. I guess I misunderstood.

If its all a one time ploy that is delivered across a few minutes in a bar, well, thats different. But how lame!!! LOL. But I suppose we'll say anything to a girl to score.

LOL, but when just meeting in a bar for a one night stand? If a guy said that with a tear, I think he'd look like a needy mess bordering on psycho. LOL. ah what a tangled web we weave...

IT's dishonest and one these days your old friend is going end up dealing with an angry bull fag that may beat him into submission. He sounds like an idiot.

Yeah it's a course of the evening ploy, so over a few hours and many drinks hehe.

Well he's a lot of fun! And his relationships would make for a pretty action packed mini series I can tell you

It's the WELLING of a tear in the corner of the eye (only) that is critical. Having the tear escape the eye and roll down the cheek will backfire, as you suggest, because it makes him look like "a needy mess." But a watery eye merely makes him look vulnerable and arouses maternal instincts.

Well, ok, I know we're just having fun here, but still, just delivering the line itself, the mention of the word 'love' in an introductory bar conversation....ida know....sounds suspect. I mean if she uses that word in any context with me DURING the one night stand, red light and sirens start going off.

I mean in your scenario, 'love' is being suggested before any opportunity to know the person. Thats psycho. hehe. But thats just me. Maybe its different from the womans perspective. Seriously, if a guy met you in a bar, and while you're there chatting over drinks, and he delivered that line to you, that after two years of a broken heart, he thinks you might let him love again, that wouldnt send you running screaming? You wouldnt see that as too fast and needy?

I've been (thankfully) removed from the bar pickup scene for well over a decade now, so I'm probably a bad person to ask. I was assuming that this conversation would take place AFTER a couple of hours and a few drinks (is that too much of an investment to ask for a hookup?), which would make it a little more plausible. And note that in my carefully crafted script, the guy doesn't claim to already love the woman; he just says she is giving him hope that he might one day be able to love again. That keeps the woman from thinking he's a psycho stalker while also feeding into her irrational and (usually) erroneous dream that she might in fact discover true love in a singles bar. Sigh.

Pheeooooowww,I get tired just reading about all this nonsense. Thank God I am living in sin and don't have to go through all this to get a date anymore.

Monica: Well, YOU'RE the shrink, so I'll defer to your analysis of the psycho dynamics.

ChatNoir: Dont get too comfy, we've ALL been in domestic relationships, and yet here we are again. With divorce rate ca. 50% and all....maybe you should be taking mental notes for future reference. (just in case )

This relationship is anything but domestic! It's WILD!

Well, that's not a statement you read every day.

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