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Re: Have you ever dropped a student.....
malkin #2851027 05/22/19 08:48 AM
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That wonderful essay made my anxiety from past memories spike through the roof in less than a minute. This may be a nice contribution if the thread is about teachers frustrated by non-practising students. But when this thread involves adult students (already) being scared of being let go by teachers for not being good enough, talented enough, or other similar things we adults can come up with ...... Well, it doesn't really address those fears at all. It's about something else.

The OP sounds like she is practising like mad, overly conscientious, and still got scared through a probably careless remark by her teacher ........ apparently for being too nervous..


I think the pavane1's essay is a response to the thread title rather than the thread.


I agree with you, Malkin. I figured pavane1 posted the link to her article for that same reason.

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Re: Have you ever dropped a student.....
ebonykawai #2851030 05/22/19 09:01 AM
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I know you said you were done with the topic but I'd like to share my experience. I had an excellent teacher who had a lot of knowledge to share and who helped me get back into piano. But her approach was always too blunt for me, and my feelings got hurt quite often. I stayed with her anyway for more than 3 years. Finally that student-teacher relationship was too much for me. I finally realized that all I cared about was pleasing my teacher at the expense of pleasing myself. When I practiced, I imagined my teacher in the background and thought about her approval or disapproval. And most of the time it was disapproval. It really messed me up.

So now I have a new teacher that I found after posting here on piano world!

When I think of him I smile! It took a change in my own attitude. I'm not so serious and even though I wish or dream I could be an amazing pianist, I'm much more content with my abilities and I'm so much happier with myself. He sometimes sits back during lessons and tells interesting and odd stories that help me relax. He's quirky in a sweet way. And yet I'm learning! I've learned to memorize a piece when that was a total impossibility before. He wants me to add in my own interpretations and to trust myself. The lessons seem like I'm not going anywhere or getting serious enough but I have learned a LOT and it's only been a few months!! I come in happy and I leave happy.

So, I actually would encourage a search for a new teacher. It's miserable to spend your energy and practice time worrying about what your teacher will think. When I practice now, and I think of him, I just smile. It's so refreshing.


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Re: Have you ever dropped a student.....
malkin #2851284 05/22/19 10:58 PM
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Originally Posted by malkin
I think the pavane1's essay is a response to the thread title rather than the thread.

I had not considered that possibility. Usually when answering someone's question, I'd think one wants to get some context first. But I can see how the title itself can be misleading.

Re: Have you ever dropped a student.....
ebonykawai #2853915 05/30/19 02:16 PM
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Hi ebony, not sure you're going to come back to this lol but want to chime in ~

It's so hard to know what's going on without having seen the actual interaction. Is it possible that she feels like she's not able to be a good teacher to you? But I'm not sure cause "tackle the nervousness" is coming across not tactful...

You're an adult, so you have more practice communicating than one of my students that I had who comes to mind...

She was very very nervous. It made ME nervous because I wasn't sure how to help her without feeling like I was hurting her feelings and messing up her confidence, which would make her play even worse. ...Because I'm supposed to be helping her! Perhaps you can reassure your teacher that you really like her and are finding lessons very helpful compared to your past experiences?


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