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I think the poster was invoking Hanlon's Razor:

Well, okay, it was a joke. Or--maybe dmd was trying to trip me up. Yup, that must be it.

I honestly have no idea so I err'd on the side of, uh... making the thread more lighthearted

No, I think you're quite correct. An alternative response that came to mind was Oops, it was a joke and it flew over my head. I guess that makes me stu...... No, let's not go there.

This is why I often play my digital when my husband is home, lol. He's not a jerk (that much lol), he's just never played an instrument and has no clue what learning and practicing are all about. And sometimes he's been known to say dumb things.

People can be stupid, even our significant others. Tell him it bothered you and ask him not to make any more flippant comments, thank you very much!

Love the idea of Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.

And having been on both the giving and receiving end of dumb jokes that went flop, yeah, easiest to call it what it is, try to avoid it in the future, apologize if indicated, and move on.

Give and take. My significant other is decent (after instruction) on complimenting, but has rebelled 100% against Beethoven because "it's too gloomy". I think Beethoven should be more upset about that than I am, but I am trying to learn the Beethoven when everyone else is out of the house.

Not trying to tell the OP what to do, just saying that if there is a suspicion of a joke gone wrong, that's a fairly easy fix. If it's something more serious, then of course what I'm writing doesn't apply.

Ok … LOL … You got me.

But now I am curious ….


How do you get it to say [Originally posted by ….etc ….] with a dark bar on top of the quote ?

It looked authentic to me.

Are you just using your knowledge of html code to do that ?

Well, never mind. I see it is quite easy.

Join a choir! That's one place you'll be surrounded by people who love to make music.

We can't know with certainty that the laughter by Mr. DutchTea was necessarily of the mocking or derisive type - we don't know for sure since we weren't there to hear or witness it - it could just as easily have been a self-conscious laughing at himself because he innocently, but mistakenly, assumed that the pianist he heard playing as he ascended the steps was Mrs. DutchTea, and so felt slightly embarrassed...such a semi-comical situation would probably have engendered amused laughter by both spouses in most marriages, with the wife saying, for instance, "That was a recording by a professional of the piece I'm trying to learn dummy, but I'll sound pretty much like that soon enough, and then I'll have the last laugh! So, stick that in your stinkin' pipe..."

But, without knowing more about the circumstances of this incident, or the marital relationship in general, it may be a gross injustice to find Mr. DutchTea guilty of nastiness, or deliberate insult or any other negative intention - the traditional principle of "due process" requires that he be considered innocent until absolutely proven otherwise, and that in all fairness he be given the benefit of the doubt. Just maybe there's the outside possibility that he's the one who has been wrongly charged here and needs compassion and a certain degree of exoneration.

Also, it should be firmly kept in mind that, in spite of the efforts of modern hard-core feminists to have us all believe otherwise, men are not the only gender capable of insensitivity or of making dumb, hurtful, insulting remarks...

Ugh.

I think most common sense people know that any gender sadly, is capable of making insensitive remarks...

Yes, especially men .

As a somewhat radical proposal I think that - in the interest of fairness - Mr. DutchTea should be offered the opportunity to come on here and tell his side of the story - it's only right and just that he be given a chance to be heard from and defend himself, if indeed any real defense is actually needed - or possible (as the case may be). Mr. DutchTea?

PEOPLE can do insensitive things, period. How about if we stay away from making this gender specific. It is only going to lead to contention and getting the topic closed. Hint-hint.

And as my contribution to the topic, I should say, "Never attribute to malice that which can be explained by stupidity:.

Communication is everything. While, in my humble opinion, it is ok to talk about it on here, if you have not talked to him about it I would suggest doing so. Perhaps that will solve everything..

Just a tongue-in-cheek joke, Ken, from a fellow male. Self-gender-deprecating. Truth is this thread has probably run its course anyway though!

Yes, but only if Mr. DutchTea doesn't show up - if he does then we could enjoy another lengthy and fun-filled run...