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In the MTNA talk on adult students given by piano prof Michelle Conda in LA (at a big national convention), she gave us teachers the warning that "In, Out, and Through" is to be expected as the norm. In other words, they will try piano for a while, and then drop it. Basically I guess she was warning us that we shouldn't feel bad when adults quit lessons on us.

Ok, but her belief runs quite counter to my experience. Almost every adult piano student I have ever encountered - regardless of level, and many of them have been beginners - pursues lessons for years and years. It becomes an important part of their lives, not a passing interest or fad.

Your thoughts?

I think an adult can have lots of determination and ambition and the discipline to match and be blessed with time to practice and attend lessons without too may interruptions.
However others can have the same attitude, but for example , be parents who put the needs of their kids before their own and their own desires and social life takes second place and have the interruptions stop consistent practice times and getting to lessons and so they give up. For some it is their own health or taking care of parents etc.
So two sets who have desire to learn but one set who can make plans all they like but life has its own drain on time and resources.

Then their will be some who have a dream, a notion, but no ambition or discipline.

I myself joined this forum in Sept.2011, bought a digital piano and some books. Started learning at home in October, had a busy December and time away from home, had a practice schedule all worked out and practised in earnest all January 2012, then got sick. Nerve damage in spine meant I became very limited in mobility and my kid took priority with the limited mobility I achieved each day, so ability to sit up at piano was gone. The desire was still there but circumstances wouldn't allow plans to work.
I would have been an inconvenience and frustration to a teacher if I was having lessons. I am glad I had decided to play at home for a year, to establish a practice discipline first and make sure lesson attendance could be consistent before signing up. It was the right thing for me to do.

I am trying again, but there is no way I am going to look for a teacher until I know I am in a good position to maintain practice and lessons before parting with money and taking up a lesson slot.

If she were going to make up a label for me it would be something like "Annoyingly Persistant."

I just started with my first teacher.
I had tried to start piano twice before. Ruined before I even got going. Has nothing to do with piano. Has to do with unstable employment in this state. It goes all the way to the point of the local offices of the EEOC. They will go so far as to lie, withold evidence on a federal investigation. All to cover for the employers. The state bar association can't do anything to them as long as they're working for the EEOC.
Basically, they want your soul. Hard work, punctual, agreeable. That all isn't enough. They want your soul.
I'm into music and piano because I have a soul. I wish to express it.
I worry about my piano lessons ending. Having nothing whatsoever to do with piano or music. I won't mention it to my teacher because I don't want him to worry.

I would want to see how this professor teaches adult students, according to which kinds of ideas. I'd want to know how she introduces piano to them, what and how she teaches them how to practice and study music, and how she anticipates and deals with potential problems and concerns of this group.

In other words, as a teacher, if one of your students has a problem, then you try to help that student but it may have to do with the student. If a group of your students have a problem, then you start looking at what, in your teaching, may be creating that problem. So why is it that this professor is having problems with this age group? Or the teachers she talks to?

I suppose adult pianists are much like adults taking up any new activity. With some it clicks and with others it doesn't. Some people start up at the gym only to quit a few weeks or months later...others are the same with piano.

Most folks I know have developed a passion that verges on obsession!

I think it is quite unfair -even ridiculous - to "warn" teachers about adult students as the vast number of adult beginners I've met (here and in person) have stuck with it for a 2-3 years before any of them gave it up. In fact I can only think of two who have stopped out of about 20. One stopped because family demands were too much to allow her to maintain a practice schedule. The other "gave up" and quit because she felt she wasn't making enough progress.

I think the woman who spoke must have had some bad experiences that soured her if she feels it is necessary to give out this kind of ..ahem... counselling.



Glad your experience has been better Peter!

I am sure there are many "in, out, through" adult piano students. It is a tough discipline that takes a lot of dedication and time on the bench. I started lessons as a re-starter back when I lived in Oregon, and made great progress for about a year. Then life commitments interfered and I could not practice as much as I felt I should. I hated showing up for a lesson unprepared. My teacher was understanding, but I felt I had to put lessons on hold until I had more time to commit. I never lost the desire to play though. We moved to Switzerland a year later, and I was without a piano for another year. In Jan. 2011 I purchased a piano again and started back in ernest. Now I have the time to practice regularly, I have an excellent teacher, and it is a dream come true to be able to play piano again. So I was sort of "in and out", but never through.

My husband is the other end of the spectrum. When we purchased a piano back in Oregon, he wanted to learn to play as well. He was a complete beginner. He was very excited about it, and we had an excellent teacher. Once my husband realized just how much time commitment it required and how many years it takes to be proficient, he decided that piano was not for him. So he was "in, out, and through". He has other activities that are more rewarding to him.

Peter, did you get any hint on how she approaches teaching adults that might explain what she is seeing? I googled the name and seemed to see material on group lessons rather than individual. I don't know how long-lasting group lessons are. I think there was a book on non-piano college students taking piano, and it didn't look anything like Guhl (I liked Guhl).

Peter, let me say first it is wonderful to read about some of the content of the MTNA talks that all you teachers are getting to hear.

As for "in, out, and through" -- judging by the frequent testimonials in the Teacher's Forum, this is a common experience many teachers have with adult students. But judging by your experience, and by the testimony of people here on the ABF, it is not true for all adult students. Actually, it may seem that way for some of the adult students here but it would be misleading -- I think there are many of us who had lessons for a while, and have stopped lessons, but have not stopped playing and trying to improve at our piano playing.

I think of my own experience, where I took lessons for a year and then for a variety of reasons, both financial and dissatisfaction with my teacher, stopped lessons. But I am still playing and practicing and trying to improve as best I can on my own.

I wonder how many child students would be labelled "In, Out and Through" if their parents would let them quit? I bet that number would be pretty high.

I agree that many other adults would stick with it if life obligations didn't get in the way. There are some who try things out and find it's not for them, but what's wrong with that? At least they tried, and made a decision before they wasted their own and their teachers' time. I find that admirable.

I once thought I wanted to play guitar. Luckily, I have someone near and dear to me to show me a few things, which helped me determine that it was more work than I wanted and that I would rather spend that time playing piano. If I did not have him, I am sure I would have gone to a few guitar lessons somewhere and been labelled "In, Out and Through." I tried something new, and it just wasn't what I wanted. It happens. Meanwhile, I have been with my piano teacher for 3 years, which makes me not "In, Out and Through."

Well, I'm on my second teacher, but the change was due to a scheduling conflict....

Maybe we can start a new club -- the N.I.O.T.s

I like it! I will join the NIOTS!

Hi, Peter,

This is really unfortunate to hear coming from a piano professor about adults.

Perpetuating this point of view towards adult students sets up a bias that gets in the way of teaching adults.

I wonder if this just doesn't lead from the get-go of not teaching the fundamentals of piano playing that ALL students need to learn if they are to be successful in learning to play the piano.

Rather than expecting the adult to be a short term student who eventually gives up, it might be prudent for piano teachers to really have a detailed discussion with the adults in their interview about what the student would want to achieve from piano lessons, what it will take to get there etc. Not to discourage the student, but to lay out what needs to be done to achieve a basic level of success.

By reading the posts on this forum, even those folks who start out wanting to learn the basics often up their goals as they keep learning new things.

I've been in lesson 6 1/2 years and just strive for more the more I learn.

I think if this professor would sit in on the various adult piano camps/retreats etc. she would be aware of the great dedication adult piano students bring to the piano.

The professors who have been the faculty at the retreats I have attended always comment upon how open and serious we were about our playing. It is a real eye opener.

A R

Peter, could you tell if this was the result of some kind of survey or poll or was it anecdotal on the part of the speaker?

I would hope that an academic speaking to an audience would be presenting data, not anecdote. (But I would probably be wrong. :))


I don't know, personally, many adults or children taking piano lessons. Most of what I know of piano students is from what I read here at PW, and I assume the people who post here are self-selected for stick-to-it-tive-ness with respect to piano.

My guess is that if children could make the choice of quiting piano lessons, the incidence of "in, out, and through" would be much higher than that seen with adults.

Yes!! I nominate you president!
You are a consistent student dedicated to learning! Even those without teachers due to life happening but still plugging away shouldn't be I.O.T.s either.

I think we should swell in ranks and give her a lecture

Maybe the problem is elswhere.
In Poland it's very hard to find an adult teacher and amateur piano lovers organizations, meetings etc it completely don't exist.

However, maybe the point is that the teachers are told how to teach children and teenagers, but they are not prepared to learn to the adult persons???
So they are doing the same things with adult as with children.
With talking about music, of course there should be almost the same, but there is someting over it. Adult people want to play for fun, while children are always teached to be very good with very high standards.

It doesn't mean that adult shouldn't been learned to be a good pianists
But they should be learned due to them skills, expectations (some of the begginers here may want to play in someday the Liszt's 2nd Rhapsody or 6th, while others will be extremely glad when they will play the Liebestraum or some easy Schumann or Chopin) and free time.

So maybe it's the reason of the skills and behavior of the teacher in many cases? Whatever you are doing, teaching the same from zero (or even not from zero) the child or the adult is something diffrent. Maybe teachers who has 98% of students below 20 just cannot switch to learn adults.

I agree with this as a possibility. Not so much that different things ought to be done with adults as with children necessarily, as that adults and children may bring different mindsets and experiences to their learning and practicing, and this may affect how the teacher frames the same basic facts and skills.


This I disagree with. Fun need not be antithetical to playing very well with high standards. Also, even accepting some of the antithesis, there are many children who want to play for fun -- just check out the teacher's forum for threads about children who only want to play music they like, and not the musical diet the teacher would like them to learn. And check out this forum for many adults who want to play very well with high standards (and yes, I think most of us have fun doing it).

And looking at the number of new piano acquisitions around here, "In for a dime; in for a dollar" would be a better description.

I wondered about the basis for this presentation too. Was it based on experience with 100 students and 98 of them quit before a year or something or did she just imagine that this is what adult students are like--when we aren't fading in and out every 6 weeks.

There is some information on the presenter. The attitude seems friendly and supportive enough, but nothing detailed.
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>>Stubbie wrote: Peter, could you tell if this was the result of some kind of survey or poll or was it anecdotal on the part of the speaker?
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I would be interested in data as well. The anecdotes can be all over the place. With 1500 teachers at the conference, a lot of data, though perhaps not scientific data, could be collected on adults and how long they stay, vs. children and how long they stay. The percentage of paying students that are adults vs. children. How many teachers try to market towards child students, or adult learners, or both, and all sorts of other permutations.

Perhaps such surveys have already been done. If anyone has actual data, it would be interesting.