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Yes, Elysia! Yes, -Frycek! I would love it if my wife (of 25 years this month! ) listened with rapt attention as I poured out my heart for her at the keyboard, then fawned all over me with hands and lips and gushing appreciation for the care with which I gave every touch and tone. Instead, she says, walking past me from here to there while I'm playing the piano, "That's Bach, right?" And I say with a sigh, "No, it's Mozart..." Alas, she is not a very deep musical appreciator. It wasn't until I asked her to read a few selected threads on Piano World where people were getting into the nitty gritty about interpretation and articulation and such, that she really started to appreciate what I am attempting to do at the keyboard and the time I spend doing it. Sometimes, I hear her in another room "La-la"-ing the melodies of the things I play (either while I'm playing or after), and that is enough to warm my heart...

Absolutely!

As long as mine can hit high C on occasion, I am happy!
I hope I don't get banned for this post.

Well, whoever thinks dating another pianist is bad is missing out on so much. Both my bf and I are pianists. In a few years we're going to be hunting for the same types of jobs. He's way better than me.. but it has had SUCH benefits on my playing, I've learned so much. And, he's a solo player and I know I'll be doing more chamber. Plus he likes my playing (or so he says)... and we're not afraid to be critical as heck on each other - it's fun actually (unless it goes as far as slamming doors and the silent treatment haha). We get to have conversations non-music couples don't have, we get to go to concerts together all the time (that is, when we're in the same country..........), and the cool thing is, we've shared some teachers over the years. So it's very interesting. The best thing is, we get to play piano duos for concerts and stuff, which is my favourite, favourite favourite type of chamber!

Of course it's not all pink and roses, and you will ultimately get compared. But as long as you both honestly know where you are, why should it matter? There will always be people who are better than you anyway.

I like her to be good anywhere

They just gotta have a very very large... piano.

so size does matter after all?

i've only ever dated one person who had any sort of piano playing experience, and she was terrified of playing for me. An appreciation for and understanding of music and my particular art form is something i'm obviously always looking for, but if the other person plays as well, there are two possible results, depending on the gap in ability -- either you will always be trying to one-up each other, and when you've been outdone it makes you insecure about your abilities, or one is clearly a better player than the other, and the inferior player isn't open and willing to share their playing at all.
not to mention all the other piano majors at my school (male and female) seem to have a stick up their ass O_o

My significant 'other' does not particularly get off on classical music. More of a case of delights with Pachelbel's Canon, Beethoven's 5th, Tchaikovsky's 1812, Ravel's Bolero, usual suspects.

But we agree on politics, we agree to disagree on religion, so it's all cool. I'm not worried about the relationship, it is all about give and take, and not getting into playing games.

Time to get them into some Elgar, Jason!

You just 'outed' me.

Not that it was any secret...

Oh [censored].

Crazy things come out of my mouth when I'm out of it. Hold on.... edited now!

I'm surprised other instrumentalists have hardly been mentioned...I would certainly enjoy as a spouse/ significant other someone to collaborate with musically, be it with vocal works, or as I seem to fancy string players.

I did but but you may not notice. I fancy string players as well. But preferably he can play the piano a bit as well

my better half sings as well as i play the piano, we never tried to change positions in that respect...

I prefer that my lover leave my piano the heck alone.

There are strict, standing orders not to touch the piano, the lamp, the music, the bench, or anything else. And I mean it.

I've never had a lover that could play a musical instrument, but I'm pretty sure I would be in the "I don't care" camp.

Hear! Hear!

Cellists and/or Baritones get my loving attention.. Pianists not so much.. I am very very possessive of my piano..

Baritones, really? But they're such divas (as are most singers haha). Cellists, yes... there's something about them... If I wasn't dating a pianist, I would've probably dated a cellist.