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#1618349 - 02/12/11 03:52 PM Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano?  
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Sorry if this is a strange question, but I'm assuming that we can ask any question related to the piano. Back in high school, I did date a girl who had already finished grade 10 piano. No doubt she was better than me, and as a result she was never impressed by my playing. Even when I played Chopin's Fanatasie Impromptu for her, she said "I can tell you are using the pedal a lot to hide all your mistakes." Sheesh. Personally, if I were dating someone, I would prefer that she NOT know how to play the piano. This way, I think she would appreciate my playing more and enjoy listening to me more. Normally, I would like to share the same interests as the woman, but not in the case of the piano. In fact, I would prefer that she be a good singer. That way we can team up and things would be much better than if we both were interested in playing the piano.

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#1618350 - 02/12/11 03:54 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: MathTeacher]  
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To me it doesn't matter, although I'd be a little intimidated if she were better than me, haha!

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Are we talking in addition to our spouse?



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#1618365 - 02/12/11 04:22 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: Dave Horne]  
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Originally Posted by Dave Horne
Are we talking in addition to our spouse?

Well, then in your case would you want your spouse to be a pianist as well? (With the two of you constantly fighting over the piano)

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#1618366 - 02/12/11 04:22 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: MathTeacher]  
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What if we're not married? I think the OP was just trying to be as non-denominational as possible.

I would either like to be with a person who was a much much better pianist than me, or someone who was very interested in music but not particularly musical themself.

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Originally Posted by debrucey
What if we're not married? I think the OP was just trying to be as non-denominational as possible.
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"non-denominational" ... No, I don't go to church, either.


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#1618369 - 02/12/11 04:34 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: MathTeacher]  
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#1618370 - 02/12/11 04:38 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: MathTeacher]  
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If they are not interested in piano sometimes your hard work and effort can be overlooked. I find with alot of people that have no knowledge in piano or music, wether it be a spouse or friend, or aquaintance. It is assumed by many that we just sit down and should play...no work involved. So I think it would be nice if the spouse knew enough to appreciate you, it is also going to depend on the spouses personality, a person who advises with posative suggestions is good, but one that undermines you can be upsetting. My bf does not play an instrument but I talk about it anyways....or I come to PW lol. I am already thankfull that he does not care what time of day I practise, or if I have to practise while he is sleeping sometimes. But I think you can share the interest, just share it with a person that won't put you down.

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Originally Posted by debrucey
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denominational :

1. of or pertaining to a denomination or denominations.
2. founded, sponsored, or controlled by a particular religious denomination or sect: denominational schools.
3. limited, conditioned, originating in, or influenced by the beliefs, attitudes, or interests of a religious sect, political party, etc.: denominational prejudice.


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#1618374 - 02/12/11 04:42 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: MathTeacher]  
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My wife gets irritated when she sees me spending time on PW. She also doesn't fully understand why slow and repetitive practice is necessary. However, she doesn't complain. She uses headphones and watches tv shows on the internet when I practice. So it works out okay for us. She is a singer.


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#1618380 - 02/12/11 04:46 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: MathTeacher]  
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That's a good question. Sometimes I think that if he didn't play piano then it would be frustrating because he wouldn't understand such a huge part of my life. But then there's the whole jealousy issue....but honestly if we actually loved each other then I don't think it would matter. Also, (and this is not a conscious thing) when I find out a guy is musical (not necessarily piano), it makes me like him more, lol.

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Oh, it's definitely better if your partner plays, but not as well as you do. wink But don't rub it in because that will come back to haunt you in ways you don't expect... mad






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Seriously though, I think you need to set some ground rules if you both play the same instrument. Make it a rule to not be critical of each other unless it is specifically requested. Having somebody hovering around can really inhibit you if you think they are criticising your every move. Make it clear that it isn't a competition and that you don't want unsolicited advice because it discourages you.

#1618385 - 02/12/11 04:59 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: MathTeacher]  
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My husband of twenty seven good years is musical, used to play the trumpet, but he pretty much ignores my piano playing. He just tunes it out (or sleeps through it which is why I can practice at four in the morning.) He's supportive in an unobstructive and unjealous way so I should thank my blessings but there are times I wish he'd show just a little more interest.


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#1618389 - 02/12/11 05:04 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: MathTeacher]  
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I would demand my date to be a good musician, doesn't matter if he is professional/amateur or what instrument he plays. But if he plays the piano, I would rather he is better than me - so I can get free lessons for life LOL. The only problem is that we may have to fight for the piano.


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#1618430 - 02/12/11 06:08 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: BruceD]  
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Originally Posted by BruceD
Originally Posted by debrucey
What if we're not married? I think the OP was just trying to be as non-denominational as possible.
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"non-denominational" ... No, I don't go to church, either.


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Originally Posted by MathTeacher
Even when I played Chopin's Fanatasie Impromptu for her, she said "I can tell you are using the pedal a lot to hide all your mistakes." Sheesh.


hahahahaha! This made me laugh. Lay off that pedal man (but really...what a b**ch hahaha)



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#1618439 - 02/12/11 06:18 PM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: MathTeacher]  
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Even if my use of the word was appropriate (I must have been thinking of a different one) I still dont get the joke lol

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Originally Posted by Percival
So long as they're not better than me. mad


Grammar as well?



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#1618726 - 02/13/11 06:04 AM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: Dave Horne]  
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So long as they're not better than me. mad


Grammar as well?


Take it up with Chaucer. laugh


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#1618740 - 02/13/11 07:03 AM Re: Would you prefer that your lover also be good at the piano? [Re: Elysia]  
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Originally Posted by Elysia
If they are not interested in piano sometimes your hard work and effort can be overlooked. I find with alot of people that have no knowledge in piano or music, wether it be a spouse or friend, or aquaintance. It is assumed by many that we just sit down and should play...no work involved. So I think it would be nice if the spouse knew enough to appreciate you [...]


Yes, Elysia! Yes, -Frycek! I would love it if my wife (of 25 years this month! laugh ) listened with rapt attention as I poured out my heart for her at the keyboard, then fawned all over me with hands and lips and gushing appreciation for the care with which I gave every touch and tone. Instead, she says, walking past me from here to there while I'm playing the piano, "That's Bach, right?" And I say with a sigh, "No, it's Mozart..." Alas, she is not a very deep musical appreciator. It wasn't until I asked her to read a few selected threads on Piano World where people were getting into the nitty gritty about interpretation and articulation and such, that she really started to appreciate what I am attempting to do at the keyboard and the time I spend doing it. Sometimes, I hear her in another room "La-la"-ing the melodies of the things I play (either while I'm playing or after), and that is enough to warm my heart... smile


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Absolutely!

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As long as mine can hit high C on occasion, I am happy!
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Originally Posted by J_D
As long as mine can hit high C on occasion, I am happy!
I hope I don't get banned for this post.


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Well, whoever thinks dating another pianist is bad is missing out on so much. Both my bf and I are pianists. In a few years we're going to be hunting for the same types of jobs. He's way better than me.. but it has had SUCH benefits on my playing, I've learned so much. And, he's a solo player and I know I'll be doing more chamber. Plus he likes my playing (or so he says)... and we're not afraid to be critical as heck on each other - it's fun actually (unless it goes as far as slamming doors and the silent treatment haha). We get to have conversations non-music couples don't have, we get to go to concerts together all the time (that is, when we're in the same country..........), and the cool thing is, we've shared some teachers over the years. So it's very interesting. The best thing is, we get to play piano duos for concerts and stuff, which is my favourite, favourite favourite type of chamber!

Of course it's not all pink and roses, and you will ultimately get compared. But as long as you both honestly know where you are, why should it matter? There will always be people who are better than you anyway.

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I like her to be good anywhere wink

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They just gotta have a very very large... piano.

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so size does matter after all?


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i've only ever dated one person who had any sort of piano playing experience, and she was terrified of playing for me. An appreciation for and understanding of music and my particular art form is something i'm obviously always looking for, but if the other person plays as well, there are two possible results, depending on the gap in ability -- either you will always be trying to one-up each other, and when you've been outdone it makes you insecure about your abilities, or one is clearly a better player than the other, and the inferior player isn't open and willing to share their playing at all.
not to mention all the other piano majors at my school (male and female) seem to have a stick up their ass O_o

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My significant 'other' does not particularly get off on classical music. More of a case of delights with Pachelbel's Canon, Beethoven's 5th, Tchaikovsky's 1812, Ravel's Bolero, usual suspects.

But we agree on politics, we agree to disagree on religion, so it's all cool. I'm not worried about the relationship, it is all about give and take, and not getting into playing games.


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Time to get them into some Elgar, Jason!

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