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My first early beginner is now moving on to his next piano teacher. He started when he was almost 5. Now he's almost 7. He has made it to Level 2A of Piano Adventures. The parent wants him to study with his best friend, and to have more motivation, more competition. Also my fees are more in line with the going rate...taking effect next month...so lessons are not the bargain for parents that they were 2 years ago (when he started lessons with me).

I understand his need to move on. Still, I feel sad. We had plans to enter festival and a competition this coming year, but I can see how the parent prefers a teacher experienced in this.

I would love to know who the new teacher is, but not sure whether it is appropriate to ask.

This is my first child to transfer. I am only prepared to take kids through early intermediate anyway. So either I will know it's time for them to transfer, or as in this case, the parent knows. It had to happen sooner or later, it was just sooner than I thought it would be.

Why don't you take more piano lessons or go back to school to get another degree? Then, you will be more prepared to take students to a higher level. And you will attract more students and keep students longer.

Personally, I cannot imagine taking students to the early intermediate level and then losing them. That's probably the hardest work, taking students to that intermediate level. After that, it's pretty much smooth sailing (of course, you'd start competing against other non-piano factors).

I have two students who will be at Level 4 this year. One is an adult, the other an older beginner...neither interested in competing. It's a good way for me to get experience teaching at this level. So over time I will get experience teaching through intermediate. For now, I am learning so much by teaching and improving my sight reading and getting more familiar with intermediate repertoire. That's how I'm preparing.I would be happy to see kids move on to their next teacher at some point in intermediate literature, but Level 2 was an unpleasant surprise.

I don't think a degree was the issue with this parent. He told me his child would only have lessons through 5th grade and he wanted him to "accomplish something". He needed someone he felt would push his child onward. I worked steadily, and patiently with his son, and I think he saw me as being too soft. I also have a nearly full studio, with a new student starting tomorrow. So I need to be confident that one parent leaving doesn't mean everyone else will. But over time I will see if I measure up to parents expectations. I've just started my 4th year of teaching...and it could all dry up tomorrow. But probably won't.

I'm trying to return to gratitude. Half of my studio has come to me through this parent's referrals, and then referrals from the new ones etc. This parent's desire to start his son in lessons at age 4 and 8 months gave me the opportunity to get experience teaching young beginners. It's been a lot of work to get this 6 year old to level 2. I just need to remind myself that I've done a good job. And it is OK for me to no longer be a good match for what this family wants.

I would certainly encourage you to ask who's the new teacher.

Several reasons. You'll be wanting to pass other students along in the future, so you want to know how students do with this teacher.

Secondly, if your ego can handle it, I would contact the teacher and ask for feedback and evaluation on problems and pluses she finds and ask if she has any recommendations for you as a teacher of the very young beginner.

I'm curious, has the new teacher contacted you yet? This is an accepted courtesy observed by most quality teachers.

That's a very interesting suggestion. I like it.

John, when you mention it being an accepted courtesy for the new teacher to contact the former one, are you specifically talking about a situation where the student has advanced and is moving on to a teacher who can work with him at this level?
I ask this because there are, of course, times when students change teachers for a variety of reasons. Case in point: I recently lost a student to another teacher. He was with me for one year, and had been with other teachers before me. The parent told me that she "changes teachers annually for her children" but doesn't tell teachers this till their year is over.

In all my years of teaching I've never had a teacher contact me in this circumstance, and I've had transfer students who don't want to tell me who their old teacher was (so I've been unable to extend this courtesy!).

I have had circumstances where I've helped arrange the new teacher, and this certainly allows for very easy communication all round....

Yes, I'm talking about any time a student changes teachers. The new teacher ought to be curious enough to learn about the student's background.

Within a community, especially. You wouldn't expect it if the student moves out of town.

I know at least 30 of our local/area teachers and at least a dozen more by reputation, even though I haven't met them. I would certainly contact them as a courtesy, in case the parents "forgot" to mention junior was leaving, and to learn what success the teacher had and potential problem areas which I need to flag and be prepared to work/help the student.

I wish Betty were still actively posting - she could help me out here, but I'm fairly certain this is in the code of ethics for MTNA members.

And not to intentionally resurrect the "student stealing" discussion we had earlier this year, but there are teachers out there who do actively solicit students, using any number of, shall we say, less than ethical methods, and then feign ignorance if you contact them and ask about it.

Presumably this parent doesn't care too much about the musical education their children get - makes you wonder why they bother in the first place!!

This is the first I've heard of it. It is not common practice in this area, even if it is something we should do. No teacher has ever contacted me except when one was leaving town and she wanted to recommend a few students to me. She asked me about my teaching style and felt comfortable sending them my way. This was 3 years ago, and they're still with me . Other than that one instance, if a student has left my studio and studied with another teacher, I have never gotten a call from that teacher, even if it was someone I knew rather well.

Thanks John. I will ask who the new teacher is. And yes I am very much interested in any feedback I may receive. I received my month's notice today. (I'll continue teaching this child through mid-August.) And the new teacher has not contacted me yet.

I looked over my e-mail notice again...having gone through feelings of insecurity. And I notice the parent told me "We will continue to refer you to other families we know."

The new child who started lessons today was referred to me by the family leaving. I felt odd when they told me...wondering if they would leave when they find out their friend is leaving. Then I got some perspective. The child leaving has surpassed his age mates, and will do better in the new situation where he will try to "catch up" with his friends. The new beginners have plenty of age mates at their level.

As I taught the new child today, it occurred to me that he, too, may only stay for primer and level 1. I hope it's not that short. But I need to enjoy the process, and keep some emotional distance. I care a great deal for the kids I teach, especially the one leaving who as I said was my first young beginner. But in reality, they won't remember me and I will go largely unappreciated. It's the way it goes I guess.

Well, if I'm laughing at times, and crying at times...just means I am alive. Can't go around trying to protect myself from emotional pain. But I'll have a second glass of wine anyway.

Good for you, Ann. Just to amplify a bit on the teacher to teacher contact:

From MTNA's statement on teacher ethics:

COMMITMENT TO COLLEAGUES—The teacher shall maintain a professional attitude and shall act with integrity in regard to colleagues in the profession.

* The teacher shall respect the reputation of colleagues and shall refrain from making false or malicious statements about colleagues.
* The teacher shall refrain from disclosing sensitive information about colleagues obtained in the course of professional service unless disclosure serves a compelling professional purpose or is required by law.
* The teacher shall respect the integrity of other teachers’ studios and shall not actively recruit students from another studio.
* The teacher shall participate in the student’s change of teachers with as much communication as possible between parties, while being sensitive to the privacy rights of the student and families.

There's a lot of latitude here, but I like to err on the side of being helpful to all concerned.

Thanks for the info, John. Like I said, I have never been contacted by another teacher, even MTNA members, except for that one time. I know of only two students (siblings) who transferred to another teacher, and she never called me to talk about them at all. It would seem that it is a good practice, but not very much enforced around here.

Well, Ann, I'll drink that wine with you. I think you may have dodged a bullet though. If the parent has already decided that his son will quit at a specific grade, he is a bit strange to begin with. I doubt your rate had much to do with it, because the next teacher will probably charge him more. It is very difficult to explain to parents that you have accomplished a lot with a child in the first year or two. There are so many things you teach them, including manners, focusing on your instructions, etc..

I think you did the best you could.

Thanks John. I've written down the highlighted section. It will give me confidence in asking to know who the new teacher is.

Candywoman, thanks for the spirit of joining me in drinking a glass of wine! Yes, to have a child's life planned out like that is odd and it leaves no room for a child's input. Thanks for your support.

About the rate change, this parent was the main one I was concerned about ahead of time. And the month notice was sent as a reply to the message about the rate change...the topic in the heading was still "upcoming rate change". But I have no regrets about the increase. Plus this child missed the spring recital and this summer has been arriving late for lessons. These were clues that my service was not as valued as it used to be. But strange how this parent has still been referring friends to me. Mixed messages.

Hindsight is 20/20 they say, but once you see enough of the same behavior, you can see it coming when it happens again. Not showing up to recitals and showing up late could very possibly mean that lessons are not that important to the parent. However, they may refer you because they like how you teach and the child likes you. I think that they have been a blessing to you for referring all those students, and now it's best for them to move on. Don't take it personally, as often these things have little to do with you. In fact, I'm pretty sure they hung on this long because of how they liked you. I'm also sure that the increase of tuition was only a convenient excuse to bow out of lessons without hurting feelings.

Sometimes you can never really know what it is that causes someone to move on, but you can't think that it's always because you did something wrong, either. You only see the child 30 minutes or 45 minutes a week. They have the rest of the week to live their lives.

You're right Morodiene. They have been a blessing to me, and now it's best for them to move on. Your statement "Don't take it personally, as often these things have little to do with you" is helpful. That will be my mantra for a few days or however long it takes. It's not about me.

This is about a parent wanting his child to have the motivation that comes from competing with a friend. This child had a friend to compete with, but ended up outpacing him (friend's parents have had 2 babies since they enrolled...no one requiring practice at home). The father said his child's "best friend" takes lessons from the new teacher...and is ahead...will challenge his son. So that is not my fault. I did not think this child was bored or unmotivated. But the parent may see it differently. A committed parent doing what he sees as best for his child.

Pitiful how one parent transferring overwhelms my view. Why not look at the child who transferred in (from out of state) whose mother lets me know her son has progressed well with me and "he likes you". I want to be open to learning anything I can about improving what I do...without getting insecure. I think I'll gain confidence this year as I venture out of home piano parties to recitals at a piano dealer and get kids involved with festival. Right now I feel scared over all of it. But I'll move ahead...and it will get easier the more I do it. I did not have anyone to talk all this over with, so thank you to my online acquaintances who have posted.

So bittersweet. But don't think you won't be remembered. As a student, I have to think it would be just the opposite. The teacher will go on to have many, many more students, but the student will have only one first teacher. And how could they ever forget the one who started them off?

Amen to that. I still remember more overall from my first teacher than any of the subsequent teachers (not to diminish any of them - they were all great!).

Hmmm. It's possible they'll remember me. I've come to a peaceful state of mind about it. I have helped kids to myelinate some neurons and to gain skills in music that they may choose to build on. And that matters. It is enough.